Infidelity

• In the midst of the media scrambling through Tiger Woods' skeletons in the closet, I feel slightly sorry for him. Though I am perplexed to see and read the unravelling dirty secrets of such a graceful icon, his infidelity screams nothing but incompleteness and lack of happiness. Even with a trophy wife like Elin Nordegren, a man could resort to less than half of her beauty to cover the holes that are not on the golfcourse, but in his heart. Though what is incomplete will remain a question by us the onlookers, judging from my personal experience with my own family, I know that a guy always needs a compatible companion. As independent and matured a guy can be, they NEED a woman to be their partner, both physically and emotionally, all the time. Once his woman stop being compatible, they start looking elsewhere. Unfortunately, for some of them, their egos deter them from saying it out loud to their partners until we, women realise that the men in our lives have taken a step too far. This is especially true with "men who made bank" because affordable sultrous alternatives are available with a flash of the bill. When they can't find it in their wives, there are plenty more out there right. Who knows, maybe it is not all about the physicals, maybe a man like Tiger Woods just wanted someone whom he can have conversations with.

• Forgive me if I am wrong, but I think a guy needs his wife to still be a girlfriend, not just a woman taking care of his household. Being a girlfriend means to still be attractive and approachable. She has to like his hobbies and interests, and help him polish his abilities. Feed the boy inside him. She cannot be a critic, but a source of support. She has to be his bestfriend, a person he can talk to about his insecurities and problems, whatever they may be. She needs to be a great 'mistress', one who can tempt him, surprise him, and most of all, pamper him. Because from what I notice, women start taking all or some of these for granted in the presence of children or in the chase of their own careers.

• It is all hormonal and psychological for a guy. As for us women, it is hard work, and I guess suppressing at times, but we could at least try. After all, it will eventually work both ways - many ways actually - we need a loyal partner and children need their fathers to be good role models in their process of growing up, so we are the crew behind the scenes to psychologically teach the men to grow up...TOO. =P